Showing posts with label The SAHM experiment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label The SAHM experiment. Show all posts

Friday, July 27, 2012

The end of summer.

There are just a few weeks left in the summer. It has been a great one. I have adore every minute of spending time with my girls and now I am faced with a decision to make. What to do next?

In a perfect world I would be able to stay-home but with Todd in a new job and not "high up" like he was in his previous job, this isn't going to be an option...unless a miracle happens (which is always possible)

I need a part-time job at least to pay for the simple things of life. Not so much "play money" like before but to be able to take a little stress off of Todd.

Thirty-One has been a huge blessing this summer but my business is new and I need to grow it at a rate that also allows me to learn.

I really wanted to teach preschool. But our preschool doesn't have a position open and after 4 years, I really don't want to move Aubrie Kate. Plus I need a job this over by 2 so I can pick Madyson up from school. I never want my girls to have to ride the bus home or go to after-school.

So a part-time job is probably going to be the best bet.

I am diligently praying for God to show me what to do next. Where he wants me to be. I am open to doing whatever he has planned for me.

Will you join me in praying for good listening ears to see what I should do next.

Monday, June 18, 2012

we are entering crazyville.

Life is crazy. Thats about how I feel. We are a few weeks away from our Disney vacation and I can not wait!

On the SAH front...it is going good. Todd and I were in our room the other night talking and he said, "I sure do like you being home all the time". I told him I sure was thankful that I didn't have to get up and go to work the next morning...or any morning for that because I had so much to do.

I have realized (so far) that I was an extremely stressed person suffering from severe depression and I masked it by staying busy. Being here all day has taught me alot. This week I am really struggling with the thought of all the "things" we have. I am 85% sure I am ready to sell it all and move to a farm way out in the country.

I am seeing, with the help of God, that we are way too materialistic in this house. I did an experiment the last 2 weeks. $50 of groceries...for 2 weeks. It forced us to eat what we had in the house. How many times have you said, "we have nothing to eat!" when in fact you meant, "we have nothing that I want to eat!" We ate until the pantry was almost empty and the fridge was bare. Then we refilled.

Also, the desire to go and buy new things for the house isn't there anymore. I am very content in what we have. Sure I would love new towels, but ours aren't that old.

I am praying about what we should do over the next year about the "extras". Television is a HUGE thing in our house. I believe that is the next to go or maybe instead of 5 tvs we will downsize to 1. I think we are going to take a year off of extracurriculars except tball and girlscouts. Those are both 1 small payment instead of monthly. I really want to simplify....everything. And really just get down to the basics. (Food, Water, Shelter, Family)

Let me pause to say that I am so thankful for my husband. He is working so hard so I can do this experiment and doing it with a happy heart. He is under alot of stress to provide a 2 income family with 1 (new job) income. I am proud of him of so thankful for his desire to better our marriage and our family.

On the Adoption front, the other night Todd and I had a few hours to ourselves thanks to his aunts helping his mom keep the girls for the evening. So we went and had an appetizer at a simple restaurant. While we were waiting to be seated sweet Alison and her family walked in! This was my first "blogger to blogger meet" and it was so much fun! And VERY weird to know alot about these people just from reading their blog!

We are patiently praying and waiting for God to show us our #3. All of the paper work is done and we are simply waiting to be matched. Unlike international adoption you don't get put on a list and counted down...you get matched with either a potenital birth mother or a waiting child. Our criteria is under the age of 2. So it could be a newborn-2 year old, boy or girl or even TWINS! We are very excited for Him to reveal His plan to us. But we know it will come in His time...not ours.

I have alot of pictures to upload (trip to science museum, instagram photos, and a few more!) I will get to those tomorrow!

This week the kids are going to another VBS at the Methodist Church. Alot of their school friends are at this VBS and they wanted to see them! I couldn't say no to 3 hours of me time a day! They really enjoyed it today and said they wanted to go back tomorrow. So I will get to go for a good run in the morning!




Sunday, June 3, 2012

Enough.

I am heading into week 3 of stay at home mom life and I am getting more and more questions about "how it is going", so I thought before I bombard you with pics from the weekend, I would share.

For me deciding to quit work without a financial plan on how we would pay our bills, keep our lifestyle... was totally a faith in God moment. I knew in my heart that it was time for me to be a mom. I had missed out on so much of my girls lives because of work. I went back to work 2 weeks after Aubrie Kate was born because I was "needed". I continued to work 40+ hours a week because it was my "job". When I was at the church I was given the first bit of comfort in knowing "its okay to be a mom". Man, that was a huge blessing. When I left the church to go work for the social media company I knew that God wanted me back in the "real world". I was going to be a rockstar and do my thing. But then 2 months into it I came to the realization that it wasn't enough for me to be a rockstar for my friends, or to do my job because in reality I wasn't doing my job.

I saw this story....

"Recently I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. The Gate had announced the plane was ready for boarding
Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the father said, 'I love you, and I wish you enough.'
The daughter replied, 'Dad, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Dad.'
They kissed and the daughter left. The Father walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, 'Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?'
"Yes, I have,' I replied. 'Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?'..
"I am old, and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is - the next trip back will be for my funeral,' he said.'When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, 'I wish you enough..' May I ask what that means?'
He began to smile. 'That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone...' He paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and he smiled even more. 'When we said, 'I wish you enough,' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them.' Then turning toward me, he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory. I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting. I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger. I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.
He then began to cry and walked away.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them; but then an entire life to forget them.
TAKE TIME TO LIVE...."

and thought to myself. I need to live. I need to do my JOB. I am needed not in the work place, they are their own rockstars. I am I needed as a mom. Maybe God's plan for me was to show me, that I didn't need that confirmation of being a working mom anymore. Maybe his plan was to break me of the pride that I felt being able to juggle it all. Who knows what it is. All I know is that I never felt more needed by my children during those 2 months.

Before we decided to take the leap of faith and for me to stay home. Todd and I sat down and talked to the girls. We explained how life would change. Chick-fil-a would no longer be a daily thing, Chuck-e-Cheese would have to see us for birthday parties only, can't run to the store to pick up that new toy or other none necessary item. It was going to be the basics and mommy. (my paycheck was our "play money") We asked them if they were okay with this and they both agreed.

3 weeks into this experiment and they have only asked for chick-fil-a once. They are enjoying our days of playing and exploring and tell me on more than one occasions how happy they are that I am home.

Each day that passes by and every milestone that we hit, I see my girls growing more rapidly. No longer are they babies, toddlers or preschoolers they are kids now. And they are at the point in their life that they are capable of making decisions on how to act in public or how to treat other people. Where do I want them learning these skills from? Me (and Todd). My desire for my girls is to have a relationship with me that is open, loving, and secure. Where I would be better than a gift certificate and they knew confidently that I had the time for them.

I have been that working mom for six years. I know the rewards it reaps but I am learning the rewards it brings to be a mom full time. I always thought to myself, we would NEVER be able to afford me to quit work and to be honest, its can get a bit stressful. But we are being very diligent with our finances, not buying things we don't need, staying away from sonic and chick-fil-a, not eating out as much and just spending more time at home as a family.

I have never been as happy as I am now. I am calm, I am productive, and I am at peace.

“… seek peace and pursue it.”Psalm 34:14 (NIV) 

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Schedule.

This is our first week of "Summer Vacation". I repeatedly play the theme song to Phineas and Ferb over and over in my head!

I am busy working this week on a schedule for us to have over the summer. With 3 kids (my 2 girls and my "is almost like my own" boy) I don't want to "boreds" to take over.

So I am busy trying different things to see what will be best!

Gav, is at baseball camp til 12 this week so I have the next few days to figure out what is going to work best for us!

I know we will have bible time and school time each day. Gav & madyson are both in AR at school and I want to make sure they make progress over the summer. Aubrie Kate will be working on 4k stuff over the summer.

Other than that I am busy Pintresting Ideas!


If you are a stay at home mom and have some suggestions I would love to hear!!! (Leave them below!)


Also! I am closing out a Thirty-One party on May 31st! Stop by and shop and stock up on great summer essentials! This month's special is spend $31 and get the All-In-One Organizer for $5!!!


Over on our Disney Blog, I talked about how we use Thirty-One to travel to Disney in today's VLOG!

Saturday, May 26, 2012

School ends. Summer begins!

We are officially on summer break! School ended on Friday and we loaded up in the car(sans daddy broadus) and headed to our family condo in okaloosa island, florida!

Friday was madysons last day in kindergarten! I cried more than the first day!

While she was in school, I took aubrie kate to her preschool to the end of the year ice cream party!


Then ak and I decorated the car for a last day celebration!




We are at the beach right now with Todd's parents. We miss him VERY much. :( 






Thursday, May 24, 2012

The adventures of Bird and snake

Happy Thursday!
I am on day 3 of stay at home mom life and so far....I love it. This morning Madyson asked me to set up our little baby pool in the yard for her, Aubrie, and Gavin to play in this afternoon. Today was a half day at school so I thought that sounded like a great idea since we would be home most of the day!

Aubrie and I were filling up the pool when I noticed the "army" of birds squealing, sqwaing, and cawing in our bushes. I ignored it at first then saw a baby bird on the ground. I figured that was the deal so I scooped up the bird and grabbed a basket out of the garage. As I was walking towards the bush, I saw another bird hopping around the yard. So I scooped up that bird and added it to the basket.

I was explaining to Aubrie that we usually don't touch birds because they can make us sick. But we needed to return these to the mom so she could take care of them bc they were too little to leave the nest. (yes, she will return. Its an old wives tale that if you touch a bird they wont return) As Aubrie and I were standing at the bush I reached up to stick the basket of birds near the nest when I saw it...

A HUGE SNAKE. i jumped back. Told aubrie to get in the back of my dad's truck and ran to the garage to find something long enough to get this snake. My dad came out as I was running to the garage and I told him the situation, he ran in to grab the BB gun, in case it was a poisonous one.

We creeped over to the bush, I pointed out the snake and we stuck the handle of the tool up in the bush and pulled the handled out. When the snake came out we realized it was a 4ft long king snake! We were going to pick it up and move it to the near by ditch but the fast booger took off...somewhere?!?! (we think it went under my dad's truck and up on the tire.)

I grabbed Aubrie Kate out and took her to the other side of the bushes. We had the baby birds in tow when we heard Roger, the lab, crying. Thinking "oh great, another snake. I put Aubrie (and the birds) in the garage and got the stick. Turned out to be another bird :) So we added that bird to the basket and put them on a table near the bush. About 30 minutes later, Momma returned. She fed them and came back numerous times during our pool  playing adventure.
As I thought about it, I got really emotional! (I think the whole last day of kindergarten tomorrow is taking a huge toll on me) That momma and daddy bird sensed danger with the snake and got their babies (who can hop, but not fly) out of the nest so the snake couldn't get them. Then them, along with their army of feathered friends attacked and made a mess of noise to try to scare the snake away.

I explained to the kids that no matter if it is a human momma, dog momma, cat momma, or bird momma...we love our babies and will do whatever we have to, to keep them safe.

Pretty adventful morning huh? Lets hope they all aren't this exciting! :/




*I have an open Thirty-One party on my site! May's special is spend $31 and get the All-in-one organizer for $5~ One of my favorites!*

Monday, May 21, 2012

home.

This is a post I never, ever, EVER thought I would be writing. EVER.
After 2 months of working from home, I am officially "A Stay At Home Mom". SAY WHAT?!

Yes! After leaving the church in April and beginning my work with the Social Media company I quickly realized that the corporate world Sarah was no longer here. My idea is somewhere in the 2.5 years I was at the church she disappeared. Family became priority over corporate world. I gave my best at my new job but as much as I adore the company and LOVE my friends there....I wasn't getting the satisfaction that I thought I would have. I longed for more time with my girls, to clean my house, to be home. Todd and I wrestled back and forth over this for weeks.

It was literally a tearfest EVERYDAY! I did an experiment this weekend. To shut off my computer (until the kids were asleep...not in bed) and to not charge my phone. To just be a mom. To clean my house. To play with the kids. and I was so happy. I was unstressed, it was a huge relief, I felt like a new person. Todd and I really just decided to act on this instinct and "take the summer off" from 40 hours a week of work. I still have my contract job doing concerts, my part-time job helping at the hospital, and My Thirty-One business. So to say I am "unemployed" would be incorrect. I am just not a fulltime employee but a fulltime mom who has some "career hobbies"

For those of you who are reading this I am sure you are in shock. For the newbies, let me explain. I have claimed for YEARS that I would never be a stay-at-home mom. That I couldn't do it.
I was proud of my Working Mom status and our financial stability.

I am going to try this for the summer. Its 2 months. Who knows, I might love it and God might use this time to teach me things I had no idea were possible. and on the other hand, I could hate it and it bring nothing but stress to me and my family and I end up working at McDonalds. Either way, I am going to allow God to work in my life. Give Him the glory and be a mom that my girls will be proud of.

Pray for us during this time please and I promise to keep you updated.